As a long serving, long suffering gay guy, I
wonder why our search for equality has come to labeling. As far back as I can remember we have sought
equality. As far as I can remember we
have just wanted two guys who love each other, are attracted to each other to
be seen as normal. The same too, I can
imagine, is what our gay sisters and transgender and bi family have aspired to
achieve as well.
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I may be wrong but, I have only wanted my love
for another man to be seen as normal as that of our straight brothers and
sisters. Why then have we, after most of
the world has begun to embrace our equality of sexuality, started to label
ourselves more often than not? Why can't
we be Mr and Mr and end of story?
It makes me wonder whether we, being loud and
proud of who we are, want to be seen as normal people of which we have sought
equality? Do we, in fact, need to label
ourselves with LGBTIQ etc etc ad nauseam?
Do straight people have to add SP so we know which camp (so to speak) they
favour?
If someone believes in our equality, do they
need to label themselves as GF = Gay Friendly?
Or, in fact do we as gay guys need to add more letters to our label if
we have straight friends = SF? The plot
thickens, as do the initials to our existence.
Or in fact in my partner and my relationship, do we add “M’
for monogamous or if otherwise be OR = Open
relationship or in the case of our straight brethren PTF = Playing the
field.
Yes, it is nice to see that we have come this
far but why have we not added, S for straight, in front of our initials if we
are in fact equal? After all, they are
who we are trying to be equal to. And
when all churches embrace our sexual orientation, do we add GA = God
accepted? Having said this, our initials
will be longer than the song in Mary Poppins.
‘supercalawhatever’ God help me I can’t spell that, let alone putting our labels
to paper.
Yes, I understand we want to be recognized as
people who have been seen as different in the past. But, do we always want to be seen as people
of a different bent to mainstream. If so
yes, continue putting labels to our names but, if not, I want to be seen with
no label but my name and that is the finish. Once we are fully accepted as
normal human beings, I would like labels to be the thing of the past - not a
past that we cannot shed because we love labels.
If however, we are waiting for all to be
embraced in normal society, and we want to stand in union with our fellow non-normal
friends, why do we not just adopt the title ‘different’ until we all are one? This would seem to me to be a more acceptable
title. I say this because by using the
LGBTIQ etc etc title we are not only separated by our sexuality but within our
sexuality and how we use it.
For all we have been through over the centuries
in our quest for recognition to be normal, is it not also important to achieve
no labeling of any kind?
Yes labels are well established in our society. But
let’s just allow them to
pertain to our grocery stores, our designer clothes and our cars and anything
that gives us more prestige. Labeling
people does not give us prestige, it gives us a class distinction which has
been the very thing that we have fought against throughout the ages.
These are my thoughts!
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