Pronoia #powerofpositive

In the last few weeks I have been reading about Rob Brezsny’s writings and ideas and I decided to give some of it a go. 

For those who may have not heard of it, according to my old mate ‘Google’ - “Pronoia is the Antidote for Paranoia: How the Whole World is Conspiring to Shower You with Blessings”.

No, Brezsny had said that a great idea is to get dressed up and give money to passers by and watch their reactions of wonder for you.  My pennies are very limited so that was out.  However, most of everything else he said, I did try to follow through with. 

His philosophy is mainly to let all negatives leave you, and generate positive vibes to your universe.  Don’t partake in anything that involves negativity.  When someone says something on the negative side steer it to a positive.  When you think something is going to drive you crazy, return it with praise.

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The first few days of the exercise was a little foreign because you literally need pull yourself back, keep yourself in check, in the most amazing situations in which you normally may have had a short fuse.  Standing in queues at the supermarket, waiting on the phone for assistance, texting and speaking with your friends and partner are just a few that come to mind. 

He, Rob Brezsny, (astrologer, author poet and musician) suggests you take it slowly.  Pick a few of the closest to start your ‘new you’.

So my adventure began.  I scoured any text, email or written word  that I  was going to send and exchanged anything that had a ‘no’, ‘not, ‘bad’ etc to a positive form.  At the end of each message I would add ‘blessing’, ‘cheers’ and the like. Not even, did I use ‘goodbye’ or anything that may be seen as final and leave the reader stagnant after reading my notes. 

Now it was funny to see the responses from my best friend, my partner and anyone as close. It was also a little difficult as my best friend has experienced many texts etc from me over the years and she knows that whenever I end a text, a message or an email to her with cheers, she knows that I am being quite sarcastic and it works a treat to make her focus on her wrong doings oooops he he. If it makes touch down, as a rule I am excited, but this now had to be positive, and ‘cheers’ to her would be a negative, so I had to change that for her. 

My partner limits his trips to Chinatown so as to not oversaturate me with MSG etc oops but now I was instigating for us to take trips to Chinatown regularly, to eat what he wanted to eat, and more often.  Seriously, we frequented it so much I was thinking my blonde hair would turn raven from over indulgence.  Now that would be a negative, so I made myself believe that if it happens all would be great in the sunshine state.  I also started googling words, and how to say them in Mandarin, to impress him more often.  Now that is a challenge when you are Anglo and he is deaf.  However, he showered me with praise and was telling people that I am half Chinese now and he is so proud of me.  (Inflated ego or what?)

Because of his deafness, he quite often does not hear at what force he puts things down. He chips, breaks and slams things quite often.  So to turn my negatives, with each thing he broke, I convinced myself that they are replaceable (that cup, that plate was not a Ming vase after all). Again he praised me for not getting upset over his breaking of my heirloom piece.  My bestie was and still is convinced that I had turned to some religious cult and had changed.  I am not sure how many times she referred to me as the Bishop or she would question my sincerity as if I was being sarcastic.  (Now we know I would never do that on this mission of the world blessing me continually, and conspiring to shower blessing back at me.)

Probably my most difficult times were in the shops! Instead of giving people money, I would insist that they should go ahead of me at the checkout. When anyone barged in front of me, I would say,'You deserve to be in front. Have a nice day.'  When waiting on the phone and hearing the music, I would count my blessings that I could hear all of this, start whistling, etcetera. When the person came back on the phone and said, 'Sorry for keeping you waiting', I would say,'No it was great, I got to catch up on some book work.' Or, 'No that was great, my whole house is clean now that I have waited, thank you.'

Ok, now my trial period is over, I will indeed look more at what I say, and do, to make life more positive.  Don’t get too excited when you see me at the checkout however, I won’t be letting you into the queue. It was an eyeopener in many ways as to how we go about our normal days on a quite often unknowingly, negative bent. So I am going to look more closely at how I communicate.  (Just remember Blondie, when I say ‘cheers’ in the future its not a blessing it is ‘move it or lose it.’) 

One thing I did notice regarding the Pronoia condition is that people genuinely are nicer to you and thank you more often. One thing noticeable, is that your messaging becomes shorter as you don’t have a negative thing to say and the RSI of my texting thumb is quite relieved as well. 

Anyway, I conclude it is a lot nicer to be nice.  It is a lot nicer not think that the bank is ripping you off for your money and that they are there to ‘serve’ you.  (After all the world is conspiring to shower me with blessing and the banks are in this world. Therefore soon, they will be handing out the money.)

To Rob Brezsney I thank you for showing me a new way to look at things.  It has been great. 

 As to my readers I urge you to try it and you too may see things in a different light. Until then cheers (not you Blondie) and blessings to all.  

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